Teachers often spend much time building relationships with students at the beginning of the year. But I have also found it helpful to keep in touch with my students’ needs – and allow them to share information with me – through regular check-ins.
There are many ways to do check-ins, and I think it’s a good idea to vary what you do and how you do it. You also need to consider what fits your style.
Here are some of my favorite options. Choose one and give it a try!
MORNING (OR WHEN CHANGING CLASSES)
*Greet your students at the door each morning or before each class change.
Greeting them with a warm smile, saying “good morning” or “good afternoon,” and using touch with which you and your students are comfortable (side hug, handshake, fist bump, high five) all make a big difference.
Make sure you look each student in the eye and call them by name. If a student isn’t responding as usual, try asking if they’re okay. Even if they don’t tell you much, the fact that you noticed and asked them goes a long way in helping them know that you care.
*I love using morning meetings. Here’s more information on how to implement them in your classroom.
*Use a morning check-in with a mood board for your morning meeting. This is where students identify “which one are you today?” with a grid of images. If you have time, they can elaborate on their answer by telling why.
One of my favorite resources for this is Doug Overton’s First Five.
Another great resource for morning meetings is Steve Hartman’s Kindness 101.
*If your schedule does not allow for morning meetings, you might try using dialogue journals. Here’s more information on how to use them.
AT DIFFERENT MOMENTS DURING THE DAY
Set a goal to have a 30-60 second genuine connection with each student at least once a week. When you talk with them, focus on thanking them for something you appreciate about them, or commend them for some effort or responsible behavior you’ve noticed.
Here are some ways to do that.
*One option is to write emails to three different students daily (or leave sticky notes on the desks of three students). This, too, can be a simple “thank you for . . . “ or “I appreciate how you . . .”
*Try having brief conversations with your students in your spare moments. I know there are no spare moments, but try keeping a sticky note of two or three names and find a minute to check in with just those kids.
Ask them how things are going in and outside of school, if there is anything they are especially excited about in their life right now, etc. It may take a few of these brief conversations to get some students to talk to you.
But it is so powerful when you find some information that will help you incorporate the student’s interests or information into your teaching.
*When something seems “off” with a student, have a private conversation. Start by just saying something like, “Is everything okay? I’ve noticed…” and let them talk (or not). Another question is, “Tell me what’s going on.” If they don’t want to talk now, they still get the message that you care and are here for them.
*Spend 2 minutes a day with a student with whom you’re having more difficulty in some way. I learned this strategy from Angela Watson in her blog post HERE.
I use this time to just visit with the student. I don’t “fuss” about what they need to change (as tempting as it may be), but do talk about any positive behaviors I see. I also ask them what is happening with them, both in and outside of school. What do they like to do when they get home? Who do they want to hang out with? What makes them happy every day?
I sometimes ask them what they need from me for a successful day/week/school year. The goal here is to connect with the student, show them you care about them, and learn more about what makes them unique.
*The two-minute technique is good for building your relationship with the student. But don’t get me wrong — there is also nothing wrong with having a conference about their behavior! They are just two separate types of “meetings” with the child.
(This post will give you more ideas for what to do about specific behavior issues.)
*Use dialogue journals (as described above). Give students specific prompts to write about. Don’t get discouraged if you don’t get much from students immediately. Sometimes it takes a while for them to begin opening up to you in writing.
END OF THE DAY
*Use closing circles at the end of the day.
You might ask students to share “roses and thorns” or “highs and lows.” This is where students share a highlight from the day and a challenge from the day.
Another option is to end the day with 3 A’s:
~appreciation (kids can thank someone else or share appreciation with a classmate publicly)
~apologies (kids can apologize to someone specific or the class for something)
~a-ha moment (kids can share something they learned or something that made sense to them during the day).
FOLLOWING UP
Make a plan to follow up on anything that students share. I usually make a note of it on my plans. Do I need to check in privately with the student? Do I need to enlist the help of a guidance counselor or social worker?
Never underestimate the power of brief check-ins with your students. Check-ins help your students feel your care and concern for them. And that helps to make your classroom a happier place to be, for both you and your students.
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